Well yesterday I saw a RE (Reproductive endocrenologist) who specializes in infertility after cancer. She said that she would be willing to do the surgery and odds are in my favor it would be laproscopic. Meaning she wouldn’t have to open me up and it would be out patient. Though I did get it the feeling it would be a LONG day. The good news it would be done on a Friday and I would all weekend to recover… before starting radiation the following Monday. She also told me to wait 2 years to try to have another child.
So if anyone can list the benefits of having children 4 years apart I am compiling a list:
- Kids not in college at the same time.
- Max will not need to be carried as much so no need to worry about the lifting aspect of pregnancy.
- He will be older and therefore easier to find care for when his sibling is potentially in the NICU.
- He will not need the stroller anymore.
- We get more Max time.
That is all I have for now…
Today I am getting my last Chemo! YAY!!! My hair can start to grow back after this! I can now say when I have the awful side effects that I really will never have to go through this again! So that should make this round easier. Also I have very few appointments in the next few weeks because everything is depending upon my PET scan which has been moved to the 30th. So that is good too.
I did see my oncologist today and we are all waiting on this next PET scan. I did find out that I can get a dog though when this is all said and done and I don’t need to worry about my numbers. So that is good. She also told me to take B6 to help with the numbness in my fingers and feet. So I will start doing that.
In other news, Tony finished the fence this last weekend. I must say I love it! It is so nice to take Max outside and not worry about him escaping! Now if I could just block off the steps and the garbage cans then he really wouldn’t be able to get into trouble!
It is a nice day today so Tony took Max downstairs and he is playing outside while I get Chemo. Hopefully in these next few weeks before I need surgery, and radiation and all the other stuff I can really take lots of photos of Max and be able to talk about him for a change.
Talk to you soon!
Jennifer
And he will be able to change the diaper on the new baby ! Good luck with everything, sending you lots of prayers
I think the biggest advantage to having your children 4 years apart is you will be able to get Max off to a great start and he will be a real helper with the next babies. Those few years alone with Max will be a great gift to him. Tell Tony to build a fence around the garbage cans.
Marianna
Hi hun! My oldest and middle son are 4 years apart and it was MUCH easier than our other spacing, which is 2 years. More advantages are:
1. Not having 2 in diapers!
2. Having a child that understands that you are nursing/changing/need a onesie and can help you with simple things.
3. Having a year or less from when your eldest is in school so you can have some alone time with the newbie as well as your older son.
4. Having clothing to pass on instead of potentially two in the same size clothing.
5. Having two children in distinctly different growth stages (this is a plus, trust me!)
I could go on and on, but I’ll stop there…LOL! I actually had friends who swore that 8yrs apart was the only way to have children! I wouldn’t worry about the spacing though, as long as you are healthy and the baby is I’m sure s/he will fit in reguardless **hugs**
Oh my goodness! I am SOOOO greatful now that my kids are nearly 6 years apart. I was SI for 4 1/2 years, and we certainly weren’t thinking that we’d have kids so far apart in age. Well, God certainly knew what he was doing, that’s for sure! As much as I HATED going through loss after loss at the time, I understand now that I needed my oldest to be nearly 6 so that he could help out with his little brother. Our baby is now 10 1/2 months old! Can you believe that?! Our older son has ALWAYS loved playing with our baby, and that is a HUGE plus, because he spends HOURS entertaining him. Because of this, we are able to get things done, like dishes, and laundry! If it weren’t for our oldest, we’d never have a clean house. Our oldest keeps our baby entertained not only at home, but on long trips, in the grocery store, at restaurants, etc. etc. It is AMAZING how much easier it is to have a baby when you have an older sibling to help entertain the younger one. I can even go to the bathroom, because my older one is able to understand that his little brother may not but anything smaller than his hand inside his mouth. This is a HUGE benefit. Also, we have noticed that our baby is learning how to talk faster than our oldest son started talking. He hears his brother talking to him in addition to us. He also tries to do other skills earlier because he wants to keep up with his older brother. I am hoping that toilet training will be a breeze with big brother as an excellent teacher! I could just go on and on……… 🙂
My oldest 2 are 3 1/2 yrs apart and then 15 yrs and 11 yrs between the older 2 and Kyle! And you know what, it’s been all positive. The older 2 get along great and my oldest DS was always helpful with his little sister in the early days. He always looked out for her at school when they were both there and he was a little self-sufficient when she was a baby.
After Kyle came along, the older 2 have been a Godsend. They change diapers, they fed him, they played with him and allowed me to make supper, take a shower, just have a bit of me time. Now that Kyle is on the go, they are my babysitters and he absolutely adores his older brother and sister.
Jennifer, don’t worry about the age difference. I really don’t believe that it matters a whole lot. Siblings don’t even notice it and they still love each other, no matter what. You get better and when it’s time, you have more children and don’t worry about the age gap!